[R18 Must Read] Great Sex Controversy: Clothes On or Clothes Off? (II) - Funmi Akingbade

With clothes on, dry sex can be very interesting even to the stage of orgasm. Dry sex is a kind of non-penetrative sex, where you and your partner smooch each others external organs but with your clothes on.  Wearing some form of white tight shirts, well-fitting jeans that show off your curves can make it a lot easier because it leaves a lot to the imagination without revealing anything and make dry sex appealing. Apart from the fact that this is another variety of passionate sex, it also gives married couple a feel of exploring sexuality where every kiss excites something and every lingering touch or smooching stimulates something else.  

Dry sex definitely feels good; as the friction and pressure on the penis, labia and clitoris could stimulate both partners and make them feel sexually excited. As a matter of fact, some husbands enjoy strong, longer and lasting erection more because of the pressure of the texture of the clothes on the penis. This style of sex is recommended sometimes by sex therapists for those who have had repeated history of premature ejaculation, weak erection, quick erection and unsatisfactory hand-on.  Dry sex is all about the pelvic movements and the avoidance of getting completely naked. The closer you place your private areas against each other while lying on top of each other, the more pleasurable it would feel. Just like regular sex, dry sex too isn’t all just about the action in between the pelvis. Use your hands and run them all over each other, kiss each other passionately, bite and nibble. Dry sex will definitely heighten the sensation of everything else you do to each other.

You can press your pelvis against his leg now and then, and use your hands to stimulate his package too. And if the wife is wearing soft cotton shorts while the man is in his jeans, you’d end up getting stimulated faster and enjoy a better orgasm and also keep the sexual excitement alive in the relationship.  With clothes on, the wife can also learn the art of seductive dressing and graduate from the stage where she could have the clothes on till when she takes them off. But first and foremost, you need to feel good in your attire in order to turn on the sexual tension in your man. Make use of see-through shirts because  the art of seduction isn’t about revealing all, but knowing how to cover it all and yet make a man feel like he’s seen it all. So the next time you’re dressing for bed, wear something that’ll reveal all without showing anything. A plain white see-through shirt can be such a turn-on for any man. Preferable soft fabrics stuff, one of the things men like most in women, is the softness of a woman’s skin. The soft, supple feel of a woman’s body is an instant turn-on for any man. So, remind him of the texture of your skin while gently letting his hands get under your shirt. Wear nightwear that is made of soft fabrics like satin or silk. Every time he touches you, he’d want more, especially if you let him run his hands all over your curves. Men can’t take their eyes off a wife wearing sexy lingerie, so make sure you pick his favourite colours. Wear lingerie that seems innocent but intentionally promiscuous. Bold lacy or satiny lingerie is an instant turn-on for any man, just as long as you know how to bend, pout and moan when he’s watching you. Please do not lie in such a way that it will put off the man, rather lie in a way you would look great and your sexy assets are hidden and yet, almost ready to slip out. Bend one knee slightly so your curves would be accentuated or place one arm behind your neck as you lie down, and stretch your body when he’s looking, that would drive him energetic! Then don’t forget that one of the easiest ways to attract your partner is to compliment him with your eyes, mouth and touch. ‘My… this is nothing but heaven!’ ‘Your rod satisfies me beyond expectation,’ ‘Wow I almost passed out’ etc can seem funny, but any man can tell you that it’ll leave him feeling great about his exploits. By learning to compliment a man with humour and lacing it with sex, you’ll get him to start fantasising about you and hoping for clothes-on sex.

While couples are in the mood to really savour sex to the maximum, clothes-off type of sex could be very ideal and appropriate. Couples could start by being naked with soft, lingering kisses and caressing in a very leisurely manner. One thing is paramount here, there is an anticipatory fabulous sensation of skin against skin sensation. Here spouses have opportunity to pay attention to those seldom-appreciated areas such as the man’s nipples being sucked and licked, the surprise feeling of the fingertips on the armpit of both spouses, the pressure of  shivering lips and tongue on the spine, inner part of the kneel, the navel  and so on. With naked sex, experimenting with variety of styles, positions and using of some sexual aids can be very easy. In either way, having fulfilling sex is the ultimate.